Hey Ya'll

[Ryann]

I don't have a lot of time...  I'll make this quick...

My grandpa had a fall tonight, broke his neck and is now in a coma and being flown 2 hours away.  My family and I are going and I'm not sure when I'll be back.  I have my phone for those who know the number, but I don't have a lot of minutes left.  They're telling us IF he comes out of the coma, he'll be paralyzed from the neck down...

Please, I'm begging any of you, pray and/or keep my family in your hearts.  This is a huge blow and a especially big one on me...

I love all of you...

Brandy

[Osbourne Kilminster]

I dunno what I can say or do, but I hope The Gods give you all strength.

[Sinnybuns/Mika]

Stay strong, Brandy and don't lose hope.  *hugs*

[Kai]

Sorry to hear that, Brandy. My thoughts are with all of you. *hugs*

xxx

[Ryann]

Thanks...  It's not good...  He's "awake" but barely opens his eyes, he can't talk because there is a tube in his throat.  What I do know is that he has severe fractures on the vertebrea at the base of his skull and it's damaged his spine so badly he'll never be able to breathe, or eat, on his own again.  And I know for a fact that he would never want to live that way.  We've had that conversation.

My family has decided that if it comes down to, either he lives as a vegetable or we sedate him and let him go peacefully, that that's what we're going to do.  I don't like being an adult and having to help make this decision.  I hate it so much.

Just wanted to let you guys know what's up.  I'll check back in later...

[toiletduck086]

my heart just breaks for you and your family brandy. all my thoughts and prayers are going out to you at this time *hugs*

[Jackson]

Whatever you need from me, I'm here. I think I can safely say that applies to all of us here. We're your family away from home. *hugs*

In the long run it's probably better that he doesn't suffer. Easier to cope with it when you don't have to watch him miserable wasting away in a hospital bed like I had to with my grandpa for the last year of his life. Cancer... and it took his eyesight too, which destroyed him. He loved to read, and it totally broke his spirit to not be able to pick up a book and lose himself in that. I can see a bit of a parallel to that with what you said about your grandpa being very active and this not being something he could easily live with. Sometimes being an adult sucks ass.

You're stronger than you think you are, Brandy. Remember that. Also, remember that you have people who care about you right here, that you can always lean on.

I love you.

[Kayla Knix]

Hey Brandy, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry to hear this and if there's anything I can do, please let me know. *hugs*

[Kai]

Brandy wanted me to let everybody know that her grandpa passed away peacefully at 6PM Pacific time. They made the decision knowing that he wouldn't have wanted to continue living with the quality of life he would have been left with and that it was the best for him, taking comfort in the fact that he felt no pain.

She'll be on when she can... and knows we're all thinking of her and her family.

[toiletduck086]

brandy, i'm so very sorry for your loss, if you need to talk or anything i'm here for you! My thoughts and prayers to you and your family!

[Ryann]

I just want to say thank you to everyone for their support.  It's been devastating and, SO hard, but I'm trying to get through it.  The thing is, is that I grew up living with my grandparents till I was 9.  I've always been REALLY close to my papa.  Closer than I am to my parents.  So, it's really a struggle for me to handle this.  In fact I'm shivering and shaking again as I write this.  Every time someone calls my mom the first thing they ask is, "is Brandy ok?" So, that should tell you 1) how I felt about him and 2) how well my family knows me.

Leese & Lisa, I just want to tell you two that had it not been for you guys texting me and keeping me going, I don't know where I would be, mentally right now.  I'm not great, but without you guys I'd be a lot worse off.  You have no idea how much I love and appreciate you two.  My words aren't fully coming right now and I'm sorry.  I'm still kinda a jumbled mess.

But, thank you everyone for your kind words, prayers and thoughts.  It's very much appreciated.

[Shane Sanders]

Not really good with this stuff anymore because my own losses in family and friends over the past few years have kind of killed that part of me. However, my empathy right now is strong. I didn't deal very well after my father died a few years ago and I'm still not back to par as my usual self. However, I do know that time is the only thing that heals what hurts the most. Cry as much as you want. Remember all the good times and hold on to what joy that brought you because it's what is most important.  I wish you well during this tough time because I know it sucks like the dickens. If you ever need to vent on someone just to help through the day feel free to do so with me.

[V]

Not really good with this stuff anymore because my own losses... have kind of killed that part of me.

that.

was going to get you in im, but i'm on so randomly anymore...

i know we barely know one another so it might not be expected either.  but mmm... my condolences, and i'm supportive of your decision.  my grandmother was in and out of a coma state for the last few years of her life.  arteries going to her brain were almost completely clogged and she wasn't really 'there', but those with power of attorney wouldn't pull the plug.  she'd wake up every once in a while and all she'd say was "i want to go home, i want to go home."

the only thing i could think of when i heard she finally died was "well, nana, you finally got to go home."  and though there were tears, all that was really left emotionally was relief.